Melissa Heholt is the wife of Jermaine Lamarr Cole, the famous American rapper professionally known as J. Cole. Melissa Heholt is also an event planner who once worked as a teacher and serves as the executive director of Dreamville Foundation, a non-profit organization founded by her husband.
As much as J. Cole’s fame has rubbed off on Melissa, she has relentlessly been evasive of the spotlight and this has made it hard for a lot of people to keep up with her and what goes on in her life.
But more than being the wife of a famous entertainer and the mother of his kids, Melissa has a lot of things going for her. Her life doesn’t revolve around J. Cole as most reports about her have unintentionally suggested. She had a life outside of the rapper’s existence before they became partners and has continued to maintain a decent level of individuality thereafter. This is evident in her career and the fact that she has refused to be entangled with the attention she gets for being Cole’s wife.
J. Cole’s Wife Is 35 Years Old and Was Born and Bred In New York
Mellisa Heholt is over two years younger than her husband who is 38 years old. He was born on the 28th of January 1985 in an American military base in Frankfurt, West Germany to an African-American father and a German woman of white ethnicity.
It is said that his father was a soldier in the US Army whereas his mother worked for the United States Postal Service. Cole’s father abandoned his family at some point and his mother, Kay Cole, took up the sole responsibility of raising the rapper and his brother, Zach Cole.
Details about J. Cole’s early life and upbringing are not far-fetched but the same can’t be said about his wife Mellisa Heholt. Who her parents are, is yet to be revealed; just as information about her family background is not readily available. We can only tell that she is the first of her parents’ four kids and was born and raised in New York. From what we gathered, it wouldn’t be wrong to assert that she came from a family that was financially well-off or at least, prioritized education a great deal.
She attended Archbishop Molly High School located in Manton Street, Queens, New York City, New York. The co-educational, Catholic school is considered one of the best and top college preparatory schools in the whole of New York. Mellisa is college-educated.
After she left high school, she furthered her education at St. John’s University which is also a private Catholic university located in New York City. Reports have it that she obtained a bachelor’s degree in health administration from the institution where she would later also acquire a master’s degree in childhood education.
Melissa Heholt Worked as a Teacher But Is Now An Event Planner and Business Executive
J. Cole’s wife didn’t obtain a master’s degree in childhood education simply because she needed to further her education beyond the bachelor’s degree level. She had an interest in pursuing a career in the field and for a while, she did so as a teacher. But it seems her days of teaching are over as she now devotes her time to being an event planner, a business executive, and a mother.
As an event planner, it is said that she specializes in planning weddings. According to some reports, she does this through her event planning company called Statice Events which has gained some clout for planning intimate weddings and high-class private events. If one must believe everything that has been said about Melissa Heholt, then she had a knack for traveling for fun and for doing business.
That’s probably how she became the executive director of Dreamville Foundation. Her husband founded the foundation in October 2011 and its mission is to help create opportunities for youth from the rapper’s hometown, Fayetteville, North Carolina.
J. Cole and His Wife Have Been Married Since 2015 But Are Very Private About Their Relationship
J. Cole and his wife Melissa Heholt have relentlessly strived to keep their relationship away from the limelight. You will hardly see them attending any industry event together. Because of this, a lot of things people might want to know about them has remained a secret.
Although it was sometime in the 2010s that their relationship came to light, the rapper and the event planner have been together since the 2000s. They both attended the same college and that was where they met and began their relationship. As you would easily find, J. Cole graduated magna cum laude with a 3.8 GPA from St. John’s University in 2007.
The two had a secret marriage ceremony sometime in 2015. The public knew nothing about this until January 2016 when the rapper was interviewed by Ryan Coogler. The filmmaker asked Cole how being married has changed him to which the rapper replied: “that was like one thing to not do, but it’s all good… They know now”.
The Couple Are Parents To Two Sons
J. Cole and Melissa Heholt have been married for over half a decade and their union seems to be thriving, even in the face of rumors of infidelity on the part of the rapper. He addressed this in his 2021 song, “Hunger on Hillside“.
While Cole and his wife continue to keep their relationship away from the prying eyes of the public, we can confirm that they are parents to two sons. The rapper acknowledged this in a 2020 interview with The Players Tribune, stating that being blessed with two sons has made him learn the delicate art of balance between parenthood and career.
Unsurprisingly, the couple has been super protective of their kids, so much that their names are not known to the public. It is said that the first son was born in December 2016 and by 2019, they were expecting the second.